How Do you Find a Japan Girlfriend without going there?

[josolopSon3]

I see alot of white guys with Japanese girls. But they have something i don't....... they're white. Japanese girls love white guys.

Japanese also like black guys, I'm not black either.

So i've done chatting and voice chatting in skype, etc., i have a penpal( female), I signed up for language websites where there's Japanese girls.
I also put up "I want to meet Japanese friends" threads in craigslist once in a while, and i've gotten to meet some Japanese girls in my city.

But they're never interested in being more than a friend. Never!
The only times that they've asked me to be my girlfriend is when i met some japanese women with mental problems( drepression, bipolar..etc)in some voice chat program. They were really nice but they were always in the hospital and i just couldn't deal with that. Moreover , one of them was really nice in voice but then she showed me her pic and shes was fat and was 9 years older than me.

Is it possible, if you're not a white or black guy and you don't travel to Japan, to find a Japanese girlfriend for a serious relationship? I would go to Japan someday if i had a longdistance gf already.

I'm in my late 20's , not white , not black, and i'm not an Engineer or rich guy.

 

[aquamarine]

It seriously sounds like you're one of those useless Egyptian 'online hunks' that are cluttering up my internet.

Come to Japan, and find a girlfriend for yourself. You think after the posts you've put up that ANY of us would actually be willing on helping you find a girlfriend? Helllll no... I'd rather introduce a convicted pedophile to my lady friends than a loser from the internet who beats off while pretending to be a girl.

 

[ShanksYYZ]

I don't think you quite understand attraction. I mean this in the gentlest way I can, but, you need to understand attraction doesn't matter what race\age\financial status you are.

Your problem, is that you're either

1) Telegraphing too much interest.
2) Making it too obvious you're looking to date based on race.
3) Making yourself seem like friend material, not boyfriend material.
4) Doting on every word she says\praising her too much\etc.etc.

I'd go into detail, but I have no clue if yo'll ever even be back to this thread. Or if you're one of those Egyptians who keep messaging my women with "Hello female come to saudi arabia and marry me for 1 million dollars."

 

[guy]

1) Japanese girls aren't interested in white/black guys simply because they're white/black. Many Japanese girls who date white/black guys do it just to be able to say they've dated foreigners -- a superficial, often short term relationship. Those who end up marrying white/black guys often do so because of some belief that foreigners are nicer than Japanese men -- but that's of course not necessarily true and certainly doesn't depend on race. There are nice Japanese guys, and nice non-Japanese/non-white/non-black guys too.

2) Japanese women, believe it or not, are much like women from any other modern society. If you treat them as fetishized objects (ie: the only reason you're interested in them in the first place is because "they're Japanese") then they probably aren't going to respond to you -- except for the ones that have mental issues. If you expect any girl to respect you as a person for more than just whatever race you are, whatever job you have, or whatever economic status you're in, you will have to respect them likewise for being more than just Japanese.

Aside from moving to or even just visiting Japan (which you should still try to do, because Japan is far more than just a country full of waifus), you have to put yourself out there in-person. If you're around a city with a decent Japanese population, that means going out to bars and figuring out where Japanese like to go at night, practice striking up conversations with strangers, getting to know women as the human beings they are and not just a trophy for your mantel.

 

[josolopSon3]

Thanks guy.

I know that many White guys that go to japan to teach English etc, are also driven by their desire for Japanese girls. So why don't you say anything about them.

I don't just want a Girl because she's japanese, i want her for the complete package. But i mean, everyone has his/her preference.

Many of you accept gays.. Gays have their preference(same sex), so why can't i have my preference( for Japanese girls)?
If you can't accept me liking Japanese girls, and you accept gay people's preference, then you're being hypocritical.

 

[Gaiarth]

Uh, gay isn't a 'preference'.

If a gay man says he prefers Japanese men, that's a preference.

Try not to make yourself sound even more stupid than you already have.

 

[HarutoAsou]

The fact that you've already centered yourself out, because you aren't white or black, thinking that the Japanese are that superficial means you will never get a Japanese girl period. I hate it when people are like "oh white guys are stealing all our asian girls"...no we aren't, if you grow some balls and go out there and talk to them it won't be an issue. What happened to your many Skype wives that are so hot and Japanese?

 

[ShanksYYZ]

I know that many White guys that go to japan to teach English etc, are also driven by their desire for Japanese girls. So why don't you say anything about them.

I'm not guy, but I'm not sure wh what you want him to say about people who go to asia just to find asian girls. It depends on the mentality, there's a difference between:

"I strike out with American women often, I guess I'd better try my luck on a global scale."

and

"I can get any woman, but I'm into asian women."

I don't just want a Girl because she's japanese, i want her for the complete package. But i mean, everyone has his/her preference.

I don't think there's anything wrong with prefering Japanese women. You can miss out on some nice white\black\other women, but it's good to be slective.

Many of you accept gays.. Gays have their preference(same sex), so why can't i have my preference( for Japanese girls)?
If you can't accept me liking Japanese girls, and you accept gay people's preference, then you're being hypocritical.

Gay people are into the same sex exclusively, it's not like they say "I like women and men but I prefer men," that is biseuxality.


There's nothing wrong with being only into Japanese women. You just need to be careful what you "telegraph" to women.

 

[HarutoAsou]

But they're never interested in being more than a friend. Never!

you don't travel to Japan, to find a Japanese girlfriend for a serious relationship? I would go to Japan someday if i had a longdistance gf already.

This is your problem. Stop trying to find a girl online. You're bitching about a girl being fat...well you know what, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN DON'T NEED TO PICK UP MEN ONLINE! Sure that is be a tad stereotypical, but it's logical at the same time. These girls are not interested in being more than a friend because you are not living in Japan. I cannot stand long distance relationships and NEVER in my life has a relationship started as long distance. The only time it happened was I was in a relationship and went to Korea for 6 months and the other was my GF went back to Japan and then came back to Canada after a few months. Who the hell looks for a serious relationship online long distance? Get a life and be realistic for a change.

EDIT: And don't even compare sexual preference to preference in women. That's like saying "well people who like fruit are the same as people who like only green apples." No they aren't. Gays like ALL men, they just don't like women. You are not expressing that you like ALL women, JUST Japanese women which limits your options a lot.

 

[ShanksYYZ]

Actually there are plenty of attractive women online the problem is the OP doesn't know what to do with them and in turn blames the women because "they only like whites and blacks."

I do mean this in the gentlest way possible. I'd be more constructive, but it's not like the OP gave an example of what his conversations usually go like, so I can only asume it goes like this:

Hey are you Japanese?
Yes, yes I am.
Woah awesome, are you from Tokyo?
Well actually I live in Sapporo.
Woah awesome I love Sapporo, I've never been there but I saw it in a godzilla movie, hey are you single?
No actually, I uh have a boyfriend back home sory.
OH WHY COULDN'T I HAVE BEEN BORN WHITEEE

 

[Banjuu]

I see alot of white guys with Japanese girls. But they have something i don't....... they're white. Japanese girls love white guys.

Japanese also like black guys, I'm not black either.

So i've done chatting and voice chatting in skype, etc., i have a penpal( female), I signed up for language websites where there's Japanese girls.
I also put up "I want to meet Japanese friends" threads in craigslist once in a while, and i've gotten to meet some Japanese girls in my city.

But they're never interested in being more than a friend. Never!
The only times that they've asked me to be my girlfriend is when i met some japanese women with mental problems( drepression, bipolar..etc)in some voice chat program. They were really nice but they were always in the hospital and i just couldn't deal with that. Moreover , one of them was really nice in voice but then she showed me her pic and shes was fat and was 9 years older than me.

Is it possible, if you're not a white or black guy and you don't travel to Japan, to find a Japanese girlfriend for a serious relationship? I would go to Japan someday if i had a longdistance gf already.

I'm in my late 20's , not white , not black, and i'm not an Engineer or rich guy.

It's kind of like a double edged sword. Most westerners started liking asian women, because of anime or seeing them a lot here on the internet, and how willing they seem to be to date almost anyone.

I think that's the way it is with asian cultures, too (well, the women at least). They mostly see caucasian actors on movies, commercials; playing leading roles, and things like that. So that's why they're mostly the first choice when wanting to date out of their race. The black african race is probably mostly likely due to Hip-Hop music, since it seems to kind of have an influence on young people as well.

Don't worry too much, though. There are plenty of Japanese women that're still single, and with different personalities. No telling how long it might take, but if you keep looking (or get lucky 'sometimes random luck can surprise you, when you add a little effort') you may find the kind of happiness you want.

Singaporean, Korean, and Chinese are just as beautiful, too.

 

[josolopSon3]

Thanks alot Banjuu.

Yea, seems that if there are Japanese out there that would like me, i have to take a more proactive approach to find them. Starting today and also after reading your post, that's what I'm going to do.

Today i went to the chat thing and I asked a girl if we could be friends and she said yes and she said she was single and would be happy with a long distance relationship too.
So, i have a chance!!!

What i gotta do is take every opportunity i can. I may soon try striking up conversations with random women in bus stops etc. I've done it before, not much cause I'm shy but at least i tried...I had about 3 successful conversations with bus stop Japanese ladies.

Oh and of course, I 'm open to KOrean, Chinese, Thai, vietnamese ladies or any other east Asian but my favorite is Japanese and i'm interesting in Japan so that's why most of the time I go for Japanese.

In case you think I only go for Japanese, think again!...I've met Chinese and Korean ladies before. One of them was a good friend and i used to meet her every week for a few months when she was staying in my city.

Then i had a Korean friend. She was cute and pretty but she had a boyfriend and he got mad because she was spending time with me, so she stopped seeing me

 

[aquamarine]

I went to the chat thing and I asked a girl if we could be friends and she said yes and she said she was single and would be happy with a long distance relationship too.
So, i have a chance!!!

Quoted for pitiful hilarity.


:defeat:

 

[retrobabe]

Is it possible, if you're not a white or black guy and you don't travel to Japan, to find a Japanese girlfriend for a serious relationship? I would go to Japan someday if i had a longdistance gf already.

Judging that this a mainly a porn forum and you don't seem to know anything much about Japanese girls, I'd have to say that if you're hoping to find a drop-dead gorgeous, hot little lolita who will take your cock up all her orifices and slurp up every little drop of your cum after you've unloaded it on her face... you might be sorely disappointed.

The general Japanese girl is not very good-looking and there are a lot of cranky and whiney ones out there.

They are a far cry from the ones you see in videos

Now... if you'd asked, "How do I date a Japanese AV amateur?", then you'd be on to something erfectplan:

 

[Rollyco]

bus stop Japanese ladies

Comedy gold.

 

[HarutoAsou]

Personally I think you've hit a new low if you ask a girl online to be friends and she's says no.

I swear to god we are going to see Jolop on the next "To Catch a Predator", talking up 15yo Japanese girls online.

 

[aquamarine]

He has displayed signs of being what we learned in Sexual Psychology class (my double minor) as a Sexual Predator. I really hope he's caught doing something horrible and is put away where suddenly he's the lolita taking Bubba's cock up his puckered little anus.

 

[scarletsnow]

Not only that, he is also a witch and a communist.

 

[ShanksYYZ]

I don't think he's a sexual predator, I just think he hasn't really put much thought into his "girl getting strategy."

In particular, you have to remember when you ask a woman to be friends, she will expect to be, ya know, just friends.

 

[Sakunyuusha]

Then he should try asking her, "Hey bitch, wanna fuck?"

That way, he's more go-get-'em-tiger about it and aqua's more likely to tune in to To Catch A Predator in a few months' time and see his pixelated, voice-altered self in one of the dark room interview segments of the show.