Hey everybody,
Here's the deal: I live in NYC, 30 years old, white, and married. I go to school at night and there's a hot Japanese girl in my class: 31 years old, raised in Tokyo, lived in NYC the last 5 years. We've hung out a couple of times outside of class, nothing sexual has happened yet, but she seems to really dig me. I haven't told her that I'm married, although I'm always wearing my wedding ring.
Question #1: Do you think she has noticed the wedding ring and doesn't care? Or do you think she noticed the ring without realizing what it means?
I know generalities are somewhat offensive, but I'm just trying to get a better idea of how Japanese women, in general, view extramarital sex. In America, I would say the vast majority of single women would not even consider sleeping with a married man, due to those damned Puritanical ideologies. But I get the impression that sex is more of a recreational sport in Japan, that doesn't require a committed relationship.
Question #2: Should I tell her I'm married before we have sex, at the risk of losing the opportunity? Or should I wait until after sex to tell her, at the risk of this girl going psycho on me?
I appreciate any advice that you guys can provide. I don't want to screw up my marriage, but at the same time, I can't let this opportunity go to waste. The perfect situation would be to become fuck buddies with this girl, and just hang out once in a while. So I'm trying to figure out the best way to do this. I've thought about maybe telling her that I'm married but that the marriage is not working out. Or I've thought about just denying that I'm married and seeing how long I can keep the charade going. But like I said, the best scenario is being honest and hoping that she's cool with just fucking around on the sly. What do you guys suggest?
Here's the deal: I live in NYC, 30 years old, white, and married. I go to school at night and there's a hot Japanese girl in my class: 31 years old, raised in Tokyo, lived in NYC the last 5 years. We've hung out a couple of times outside of class, nothing sexual has happened yet, but she seems to really dig me. I haven't told her that I'm married, although I'm always wearing my wedding ring.
Question #1: Do you think she has noticed the wedding ring and doesn't care? Or do you think she noticed the ring without realizing what it means?
I know generalities are somewhat offensive, but I'm just trying to get a better idea of how Japanese women, in general, view extramarital sex. In America, I would say the vast majority of single women would not even consider sleeping with a married man, due to those damned Puritanical ideologies. But I get the impression that sex is more of a recreational sport in Japan, that doesn't require a committed relationship.
Question #2: Should I tell her I'm married before we have sex, at the risk of losing the opportunity? Or should I wait until after sex to tell her, at the risk of this girl going psycho on me?
I appreciate any advice that you guys can provide. I don't want to screw up my marriage, but at the same time, I can't let this opportunity go to waste. The perfect situation would be to become fuck buddies with this girl, and just hang out once in a while. So I'm trying to figure out the best way to do this. I've thought about maybe telling her that I'm married but that the marriage is not working out. Or I've thought about just denying that I'm married and seeing how long I can keep the charade going. But like I said, the best scenario is being honest and hoping that she's cool with just fucking around on the sly. What do you guys suggest?