Calm down. You're being overly melodramatic.
This was ultimately
your error, but your response has been a hotly-worded defense in which you have sought to deflect all blame from yourself back onto pretty much everybody else. I suppose I should not be surprised given your previous replies, but I am nonetheless disappointed. Yes, you do say you're sorry for the mistake; but, you continue to insist that the community has been inconsiderate and/or hostile towards you. I don't think anyone can be said to have been hostile. Every single person who has replied has been trying to help you -- in one way or another -- and not one of them has suggested that you should leave. If you mistake criticism for hostility, then yes, you must feel that I'm being incredibly "hostile" to you right now.
While you may insist that your error was due to the rules being unclear or the board being difficult to navigate, these are only excuses. To put it into general terms,
negligence is not a valid legal defense.
I agree that it must be very difficult for a new member to figure out where threads belong. But there are many things which are difficult to figure out: for example, how to assemble a computer. If nobody tells you that static electricity can easily be passed from your body to a circuitboard, and if you manhandle your RAM cards by their teeth and thus short-circuit them, rendering them
useless, you are right to be frustrated that nobody told you but you would not have a good leg to stand on if you sought a refund from the company that manufactured the RAM. They would tell you things like "You should have known what you were doing" and "It's common knowledge that static electricity can easily ruin computer parts." These criticisms of your behavior are not necessarily hostile or rude -- they're just criticisms of your own negligent behavior.
So departing from that example and returning to what really did take place,
yes, the rules for thread-posting may be confusing to a new member.
But in that case? The most appropriate response is to not post a new thread at all. You shouldn't post until you are certain you are doing the right thing. Many webforums have instructions or rules like this. Some webforums (like HongFire) go so far as to restrict new members' ability to create threads until they have made at least 30 non-spam replies to existing threads. To state it one last time and in a different way:
- the non-negligent thing to have done would have been to have not posted a thread at all until you had thoroughly studied the board either actively (poring over it) or passively (by conversing with us and getting a feel for how things work); and had you done so and had the outcome still been negative, you could then have better defended your error and we would have agreed that it was not negligence on your part
- the negligent thing to do is to "post first, ask questions later"
Finally, we have a "Thanks!" button on the bottom right-hand corner of each post excluding one's own. I believe that
this reply as well as
this one gave you information which you appreciate, i.e. they answered your original request. I think you see where this is going ... ?
