Picking up girls ;)

[Gaiarth]

Perhaps this Guide for Gaijin to impressing Japanese girls will help...

http://japansugoi.com/wordpress/nai-...de-for-gaijin/

[guy]

There's a reasonable chance that you can find a girl who speaks broken english (ie: the remnants of what they learned in grade school). But you're better off trying to learn a bit of Japanese, at least some common or some witty phrases. At least then you might have a chance of being "the cute foreigner who's butchering our language".


As for being asian, it's a two-way street. On the one hand you might blend in enough to seem like a normal guy (if you speak the part). But on the other hand, you can forget about having any unique qualities (good luck trying to get attention).

[Evil Kitten]

I'm a tall non-Asian gaijin who doesn't speak Japanese. The only women who have ever spoken to me during all my visits were old grannies who had lived abroad. Otherwise no women dared to approach me or act particularly approachable. I've been told that I tend to look like I don't want to be bothered so maybe that's why. I guess I might have looked like a decent catch to those old world weary widows anyway. LOL. But I didn't really care about any of that as I generally keep to myself regardless of what country I'm in. I show up. I buy some stuff and look around a bit. And then I'm gone. There's not much point in trying to hook up when you're only going to be around for a couple days at a time.

[indreamsiwalk]

I'm fluent in Japanese and have been in relationships with about ten Japanese women (and had close calls with as many more), but I've never "picked up" a strange woman and had a one-night stand. I've been tempted when I've been lonely (say, on a business trip), and come pretty close at least twice, but my heart wasn't in it, and I didn't make the extra effort that would have been necessary. (Probably the closest I ever came was when I was thirty-something and met a twenty-something hairdresser at a bar in Tokyo. We talked for hours, and she was extremely attractive, but although she seemed open to something more, I finally said good night and went back to my hotel room, alone. Sad thing is, I can't even remember what she looked like.)

I suppose I can understand wanting to just have the experience of sleeping with a Japanese woman. And if the feeling is mutual, hell, why not? I guess I'm just not a one-night-stand kind of guy.

But I once knew a guy (he was probably about 21 at the time) who was a fairly decent looking Caucasian American, and he had more one-night stands in his one year as an exchange student in Japan than...well, than I'll ever have (or would want to have) in a lifetime.

He would openly stare at an attractive woman on the train, and then as he got up to get off the train, he would hand her a card with his name and phone number on it without saying anything...and a lot of these women would actually call him! He said it had become an addiction with him, and that he probably did it because he could never have been able to do it back home. I never talked with him after he left Japan (and frankly, I never liked the guy), but it must have been hard for him to adjust to being just another guy who couldn't expect strange women to call him and sleep with him just because he gave them his calling card. (Hell, doing something like that in the U.S. would probably get him laughed at, or maybe even kicked in the nuts. )

But, it worked for him, so if you really want to get laid while you're in Japan, and have the guts, why not give it a try? (Keep in mind, though, that the guy I'm talking about was fairly fluent in Japanese.)

[godgundam10]

Any advice for a 6'4'', 25-year old guy from California? Especially for one with a heart condition, ADD, OCD and diabetes? Or will all those things turn women off?

[indreamsiwalk]

Originally Posted by godgundam10

Any advice for a 6'4'', 25-year old guy from California? Especially for one with a heart condition, ADD, OCD and diabetes? Or will all those things turn women off?

Haha. I suppose it depends on the woman, the situation, and how those facets manifest themselves.

[godgundam10]

Maybe they'll feel sorry for me? Who knows. I am thinking about buying a copy of Rosetta Stone. Plus, Shoko Nakagawa is coming to an anime con in Los Angeles. Maybe if I bring her flowers when I ask for an autograph. She's an otaku. I'm White and Nerdy. We may be compatible?

[indreamsiwalk]

Originally Posted by godgundam10

Maybe they'll feel sorry for me? Who knows. I am thinking about buying a copy of Rosetta Stone. Plus, Shoko Nakagawa is coming to an anime con in Los Angeles. Maybe if I bring her flowers when I ask for an autograph. She's an otaku. I'm White and Nerdy. We may be compatible?

I'm assuming you're joking, but if you really do think you have a chance of picking up Shoko Nakagawa by giving her flowers at an anime con, you may need to add another illness to your list.

[godgundam10]

I've been delusional for years, so it comes naturally. Then again, if anime has taught me anything, Japanese women only marry Japanese men. They've been doing that for 2,000 years, so why would they give it up now?

[indreamsiwalk]

Originally Posted by godgundam10

Then again, if anime has taught me anything, Japanese women only marry Japanese men. They've been doing that for 2,000 years, so why would they give it up now?

Well, one married me, and another says she's ready to (and before her there was another who was willing and eager, until I discovered she was a raving lunatic and fled for my life ). I personally have known more international (Japanese woman/non-Japanese man) couples than I can recall. Japan has been undergoing a steady female brain drain for decades, because talented women know they'll face less discrimination in many other countries, and most of those women end up with non-Japanese men who won't press them to give up their careers after childbirth.

Sorry: I've moved the topic from one-night stands to long-term commitments complete with offspring.