Shy Guys, How to Ever have Great SX?

[Murdoc2k]

wow... I've been stuck in this "nice guy" phase for about 5 years. I'm in my early 20s and I'm starting to come out of this phase. It's really hard to come out of that shell as you guys describe but I totally understand it's necessary. Sometimes if you don't do it yourself, you just won't grow.

I'm attending university right now and I've actually took a step forward by taking a deep breath and talking to two attractive girls that I am interested in. Eventually I realized that I like one more than the other and so I've managed to stay friends with the less preferred while attempting to pursuit the one I think I like most right now. To me, it's a win win situation.

I find that when you do start to reach the confidence level where you can start talking to girls without starring at their tits or thinking about doing them that not only can you learn more about them you can actually start to feel a connection with them (at a friend level) more than a lover. You will also start to like her outside of physical attraction which drives you even crazier. A word of advice is to progress step by step. I've made a slight bad move at the beginning by jumping a head of myself. I'm in a 50/50 situation right now cause I rushed things a little and I think I might've scared the girl I like a bit =S It's a painful lesson but I've learned it the hard way. Hopefully you guys (who are trying to get to this stage) won't have to go through the same problem that I did.

PS: I've also thought about joining more social activities as kamenramen have stated. The problem with most of us on the web (and most of us who consume porn excessively) is that we are stuck by the computer too much and thus we have nothing to share when we meet these girls.

[HarutoAsou]

I feel like contributing, not to assist the OP but everyone else that may need it.

Girls do not like nice guys, that is the first thing. I don't care if she is your best friend and she says she likes nice guys, she's lying. Girls THINK they like nice guys, but why? Well because they won't pressure them into a relationship so they can stay friends, that's why. If you glue your nuts back on and be more assertive you can and will get a GF.

When I first came to Vancouver I had 3 friends living here and they didn't live near me. So what I did is I went out on the streets with said friends and picked up atleast one girl a day. After two weeks I had more than I knew what to do with (yeah, it's a bit excessive but it does make it a lot easier to talk to girls) and now I'd say 90% of my friends are girls and I like it that way.

I know exactly what shy guys are going through because my room mate (a friend of 7 years) is the same. We were walking on the street and there was a harem of Japanese girls so I told him to go talk to them (he's 24yo and never had a GF, never kissed, never even hugged a girl). To my surprise he did walk up and talk to her so I started to talk to her friends while eavesdropping on him. After he finished talking to her he was just like "ummm...okay, bye" and I whispered "ask for her phone number." He asked but she had only been here for 2 weeks so didn't have one and he was about to walk away again and I was like "ask for her e-mail." So he asked her and...well she asked for HIS e-mail and never did mail him, but still, it was practice for him. Don't just "talk" to girls, make a move.

[scarletsnow]

I'm a nice guy and plenty of girls have wanted me. I see nice guys everywhere with girlfriends and wives.
However if you want an alpha female you have to indeed behave like an alpha male. But most females prefer not to live in a harem, so they will settle for less than an alpha. Some might not even want an alpha male.

Usually there is a female for every male. An alpha male for an alpha female, beta for beta and omega for omega. There are plenty of single omega females though who will only settle for an alpha male; forget about them, let them find a harem.

The problem for love-shy males is that they are romantically passive. This is not a problem for females because most of them are and most men are romantically active. It is plain statistics; the odds that a romantically active female will pursue a romantically passive male are just small. They are both a minority, However these females can also get into relationships with the abundantly present romantically active males and are likely to, because they do not only pursue but are being pursued.

And forget about having balls. Almost every men has testicles; it is not an accomplishment. They just grew, like apples on a tree, while you were sucking your thumb, deep inside the vagina of your mother. World peace or a university degree is an accomplishment, neither requires testicles.

People come in every color of the rainbow; infinite shades of sexuality, gender identities and gender roles. You don't have to be a romantically active macho. If you're for example a romantically passive metro and you pretend to be macho; you'll only end up with a female that does not want the real you and one you don't really want.

It is not that hard to get an omega girlfriend, just don't expect them to ring your doorbell; you have to get out there. Twice passive will not work so you have to make some moves, unless you just want to wait around looking all hot for those few pursuing females. And if you want a beta or even alpha you have to step your game up. Also alcohol, marijuana, vacations, the right situation and mood work wonders to get females to lower their shields.

Having single, male friends is also great as they can be your wingmen and also introduce you to girls they know. Get rid of any friends that are cockblockers though. A friend like HarutoAsou would be great, if you're nice to him he might even introduce you to his sister.

[gaggermager1]

I'm a shy and nice guy and I get laid.

There are many girls that like shy guys.

The problem is that the definition of "shy" vary alot. Usually when girls say that they like shy guys they don't mean someone who is standing in a corner, quiet and staring at the floor. They mean someone who doesn't come and "snatch" her wailing "HEY BABY!"

Basicly a "shy guy" is a guy that approach them in a less agressive, boasting fashion.

It works well as long as you're not afraid of showing interest in the girl.

[joker_face]

1. Read "The Game" by Neil Strauss - good for guidelines
2. Dress well
3. Weak Law of Large Numbers; gotta be willing to get shot down (a lot) to get laid

[jmenaxs]

dude relax man i m an Asian chinese 1st you need to be friend with some guy who is popular among the girls that should be a pretty good start then work thing form there ^.^ hope tat helps its work for me thou 18 not Vi_gn

[HarutoAsou]

Originally Posted by jmenaxs

dude relax man i m an Asian chinese 1st you need to be friend with some guy who is popular among the girls that should be a pretty good start then work thing form there ^.^ hope tat helps its work for me thou 18 not Vi_gn

So you basically use other people to compensate for you inability to get pussy? That's pretty weak man.

[josolopSon3]

well guys i'm getting pussy soon. so no problem!!!

i found a new Japanese GF and we'll fk soon

Well not soon, because it's a long distance relationship

[HarutoAsou]

Originally Posted by josolopSon3

well guys i'm getting pussy soon. so no problem!!!

i found a new Japanese GF and we'll fk soon

Well not soon, because it's a long distance relationship

Doesn't matter JackOffALot because you are already fucking 2 girls every night anyways right? That's what you said in your other post.

[Murdoc2k]

Originally Posted by joker_face

1. Read "The Game" by Neil Strauss - good for guidelines
2. Dress well
3. Weak Law of Large Numbers; gotta be willing to get shot down (a lot) to get laid

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