When I look at the messages, I cannot tell if it is the woman or man post! So I don't know how to respond to the post. And wouldn't want to be rude if I say something "macho" to a girl...
Could you please add the MALE/FEMALE sign to the posts of their author. It very easy to do, 'cause I'm moderator on one of the forum. Just add the SEX DESCRIPTION sign to the visible data on the post!
If you're that concerned with the gender of the person to whom you are responding, check their profile; it's listed there if they so choose to have it displayed.